“Thank you.” A simple gesture that alerts another to the fact that they are seen and appreciated. All we really want is to be seen, for our actions to be witnessed, for the simplicity of our being-ness to mean something to another.
During this time of Covid, I have seen article after article about how divorce will be on the rise when this is over. How partners are driving each other crazy because they are stuck under the same roof day in and day out. Luckily, I am here to share a different experience. My husband and I have grown even closer during this time. Yeah, sure, we’ve had our moments, but the weight of this moment has brought us closer, not the other way around. We’ve had to have deeper conversations about our future. Both of our shadows have come out to play, our fears dancing on the surface, unable to be quieted.
I personally have had bursts of anger which turned into 30 min crying sessions, negative outbursts of criticism around my body, thanks to “tubby” my inner critic… that’s a whole other blog, rumination about what’s next with business and Eddie has been there for it all. He’s helping reprogram my nervous system by showing me that during these difficult moments, there is a loving presence there to hold me and allow for the emotions to move through me without judgement. He’s been extremely vulnerable with his feeling and trying to find words to communicate how he feels, even when it’s out of his comfort zone. He’s done a breathwork class with me, which after all these years of experiencing the power of breathwork myself, was beautiful to watch. I was moved to tears by witnessing his opening and expansion after one class. We literally have been in a cocoon of healing, whether we know it consciously or not in the moment. Looking back, I can see what has been being excavated and the amount of expansion that has taken place and is still happening.
The key, to all of this, I believe, has been the appreciation of one another and the outward expression of that appreciation.
It’s so very easy to go about our relationships in robotic fashion, especially when those relationships are very familiar. Appreciation for the small things can go out the window. This moment in time has been teaching me, and hopefully all of us, what and who really matter and how to deepen our connection and appreciation for the “little things.”
Really, the “little things” are the BIG THINGS.
They are the things that sustain us. They are the things that give us life, bring us joy, fill our hearts… and our bellies.
One day, while doing dishes and packing up leftovers I said to Eddie, “I LovE it when we thank each other for all the little things.” To which he replied, “I do too.” We recognize one another and our efforts. We respect each other. A “thank you” goes one hell of a long way.
I have found myself thanking every part of life these days. I thank my food, the land, the water, my sweats (I thank them the most, LOL), my body, my mind, my friends, my family, my employees, my triggers, the struggles, the darkness, the universe…. I thank it ALL. I give gratitude, not only in the easily digestible, joyful moments, but in the muck too. It’s all here serving us, awakening us to our divinity.
Ultimately, it all comes back to LovE. Everything is breaking us open and leading us back to the LovE that we are.
Can you open up your heart to this shift in perception?
How are you and gratitude dancing these days?
Has your appreciation deepened through this unprecedented experience?
How are you and your partner? If you don’t have a partner at the moment, how are you and you?
What and who can you thank today?
What can you bring into awareness in this very moment and give thanks for?
In your dark moments, can you also hold gratitude for the experience or the release and if that’s not accessible in the moment, can you ask god to open your heart to it?
Gratitude is the gateway drug to joy, my friends, to freedom!
And you know what, I am damn grateful for you and this journey we are on together. I LovE you!